Post by gothique on Sept 26, 2008 13:18:57 GMT -5
So I had an appointment set up yesterday with my GYN that I've been seeing for over a year to discuss how I was handling the Depo shot and the Wellbutrin to counteract my mood swings. I decided that while I was there I would just bring up the topic of my getting my tube tied ( I say tube since I lost an ovary due to endo. Hmmm I wonder if I can get a 50% discount?) so at the end of the visit I stated my childfree case and told him that it was a decision I made many years ago and that my husband feels the same way. The he asks how old I am and I say I'm 27.
Now I'm waiting to hear the "Oh you're way to young. You'll change your mind. You need to have at least some kids" and all the other stupid bingos us CF's get to hear.
He said " You're 27 years old you're an adult and adults make adult decisions. Whether you don't want children or don't want anymore children that is your call in life and I'm not here to judge you." I then told him that other GYN's told me I was too young to which he replied "That's nonsense. I'll perform them on anyone 21 and over because you're legally an adult and if you can vote, drink and fight in a war you can make decisions about your own life and body."
I about fell off the examining table! I never expected him to say this because he specializes with infertility and his whole office is flooded with all things baby. It was just so refreshing to hear someone ANYONE say what he did.
So I decided for my 30th birthday I'm going to treat myself. I know you're probably wondering why I'm waiting when this holy grail of many CF has been offered to me. Well for one thing I just got over surgery, I have a colonoscopy coming up and other various health issues so I want to give my body a rest for a little bit before it gets cut back open again. Another is that 30 just sounds like the right time in life to officially know if I am CF.
I say that because my mom hated kids when she was in her 20's She even showed me a diary entry that said she never wanted any, that they were horrible critters and she'd rather have dogs. Then she said when she was 30 something just changed in her and she wanted them. So here I am. Then she wanted two more! My dad said no to that and it's just me. Now she loves children and is excellent with them.
So I guess you can say I harbor that little worry inside. I mean a tubal is permanent so there really is no going back. I figure if I don't want any kids at 30 I'm not going to want them anytime after that either.
So if anyone is in the Pennsylvannia area and looking for a tubal I'll be more than happy to give out my docs phone number!
Now I'm waiting to hear the "Oh you're way to young. You'll change your mind. You need to have at least some kids" and all the other stupid bingos us CF's get to hear.
He said " You're 27 years old you're an adult and adults make adult decisions. Whether you don't want children or don't want anymore children that is your call in life and I'm not here to judge you." I then told him that other GYN's told me I was too young to which he replied "That's nonsense. I'll perform them on anyone 21 and over because you're legally an adult and if you can vote, drink and fight in a war you can make decisions about your own life and body."
I about fell off the examining table! I never expected him to say this because he specializes with infertility and his whole office is flooded with all things baby. It was just so refreshing to hear someone ANYONE say what he did.
So I decided for my 30th birthday I'm going to treat myself. I know you're probably wondering why I'm waiting when this holy grail of many CF has been offered to me. Well for one thing I just got over surgery, I have a colonoscopy coming up and other various health issues so I want to give my body a rest for a little bit before it gets cut back open again. Another is that 30 just sounds like the right time in life to officially know if I am CF.
I say that because my mom hated kids when she was in her 20's She even showed me a diary entry that said she never wanted any, that they were horrible critters and she'd rather have dogs. Then she said when she was 30 something just changed in her and she wanted them. So here I am. Then she wanted two more! My dad said no to that and it's just me. Now she loves children and is excellent with them.
So I guess you can say I harbor that little worry inside. I mean a tubal is permanent so there really is no going back. I figure if I don't want any kids at 30 I'm not going to want them anytime after that either.
So if anyone is in the Pennsylvannia area and looking for a tubal I'll be more than happy to give out my docs phone number!
