Post by lexgirl on Jul 15, 2009 20:35:49 GMT -5
I am childfree and very happy about it. I do love children and might adopt someday, but have never wanted to bring any more into the world. So I mentor to have a child in my life without all the responsibility, expense, and stress.
I have been mentoring the same girl for 7 years. She's 13 now. Her father is an alcoholic/drug user/sex addict and hasn't been in her life for years. Her mom is a much better parent, but still a mess. She is very poor and gets some welfare and food stamps. She takes one class in college every once in a while and then often quits part way through. She is erratic and her home is so filthy that there are mice running around and her daughter has skin diseases. She feeds her mostly junk food. She lets her hang out with older boys, dressed in sexy clothes.
This mom started sleeping with the next door neighbor, an alcoholic who has violent outbursts, flooded her apartment on purpose, smashed her stereo, stole the radio out of her car, stole the tag off her license plate; and has a teenage daughter who lies, steals, uses drugs, gets in fights, and became sexually active very young.
So... this mom DECIDES, yes CHOOSES, to have a baby with this crazy man. They were both 45 years old. He drinks and drives, they both smoke cigarettes and pot around the kids, and he is still exploding into fits as well as flirting with other women in front of her and her daughter. Now the 13 year old competes for attention and resources with this little baby, and there isn't even enough for one. She has ran away from home... to live with another drug addicted, welfare mother in her neighborhood, just to get away from the stepdad.
None of these people should have EVER had children. They are horrible parents. And here I am, a lover of children who doesn't want any. I try very, very hard to be a good role model to this kid and show her alternatives to the lifestyle she is exposed to. We spend time together every month, go on trips, have sleepovers, volunteer, and cook healthy food. I tell her I love her, hug her, encourage her, send her cards in the mail, and talk to her about sex and drugs and growing up. She is a GOOD kid, especially when she's away from those horrible influences. I am a busy, poor college student, so I don't have the time or resources to play a bigger role in her life. All I can hope is that I can help steer her away from repeating the cycle.
I encourage everyone who likes kids to mentor, adopt, foster, or teach to make a difference without adding to overpopulation. There are so many kids out there who need good role models. And there are so many grownups who should be sterilized.
I have been mentoring the same girl for 7 years. She's 13 now. Her father is an alcoholic/drug user/sex addict and hasn't been in her life for years. Her mom is a much better parent, but still a mess. She is very poor and gets some welfare and food stamps. She takes one class in college every once in a while and then often quits part way through. She is erratic and her home is so filthy that there are mice running around and her daughter has skin diseases. She feeds her mostly junk food. She lets her hang out with older boys, dressed in sexy clothes.
This mom started sleeping with the next door neighbor, an alcoholic who has violent outbursts, flooded her apartment on purpose, smashed her stereo, stole the radio out of her car, stole the tag off her license plate; and has a teenage daughter who lies, steals, uses drugs, gets in fights, and became sexually active very young.
So... this mom DECIDES, yes CHOOSES, to have a baby with this crazy man. They were both 45 years old. He drinks and drives, they both smoke cigarettes and pot around the kids, and he is still exploding into fits as well as flirting with other women in front of her and her daughter. Now the 13 year old competes for attention and resources with this little baby, and there isn't even enough for one. She has ran away from home... to live with another drug addicted, welfare mother in her neighborhood, just to get away from the stepdad.
None of these people should have EVER had children. They are horrible parents. And here I am, a lover of children who doesn't want any. I try very, very hard to be a good role model to this kid and show her alternatives to the lifestyle she is exposed to. We spend time together every month, go on trips, have sleepovers, volunteer, and cook healthy food. I tell her I love her, hug her, encourage her, send her cards in the mail, and talk to her about sex and drugs and growing up. She is a GOOD kid, especially when she's away from those horrible influences. I am a busy, poor college student, so I don't have the time or resources to play a bigger role in her life. All I can hope is that I can help steer her away from repeating the cycle.
I encourage everyone who likes kids to mentor, adopt, foster, or teach to make a difference without adding to overpopulation. There are so many kids out there who need good role models. And there are so many grownups who should be sterilized.
