Post by preraph on Sept 5, 2011 17:06:14 GMT -5
I've had some real weird results from meeting people I met online. Those ones I described above were total bullies online, really mean, attacking people, ganging up on people. In reality, in life they had no power whatever and were small and weak. The men described one of them as "harmless." Only harmless in person, but very destructive online. In person she would have run screaming to get away from me. Haha.
That's why the internet is so dangerous, though. I mean, I'm one of the worst stalking victims ever because I'm totally schooled on it and not weak and not afraid to say no, but online stalkers can't SEE that. They can't see me give them my "Don't F with me" look and I'm not going to go off being a big b*tch online so they get the message, for all the world to see. So I got saddled with really bad violent stalkers (related to one another) who I'd never met who kept it up for 3 years without communication from me or provocation. It was all in their minds once they got focused. The other girl they were stalking, who HAD met at least one of them, did become a genuine friend in person, one of the only ones.
I met one guy online who was charming and funny and gay and he lived in England, so I saw him when I went there, and he was so SCARED of meeting me that it was just sad. He later really flaked out, too, and kind of betrayed me and that girl I mentioned with the stalker idiots. He was fanning the flame, against our wishes, so he went from friend to persona non grata in a hurry. We were sad about it, but felt for our own protection, it had to be.
Then there was one girl who I used to chat with at night. She invited me to a concert in her part of the country, but when I accpeted, she freaked out and distanced herself!! What was SHE hiding, I've always wondered.
That's why the internet is so dangerous, though. I mean, I'm one of the worst stalking victims ever because I'm totally schooled on it and not weak and not afraid to say no, but online stalkers can't SEE that. They can't see me give them my "Don't F with me" look and I'm not going to go off being a big b*tch online so they get the message, for all the world to see. So I got saddled with really bad violent stalkers (related to one another) who I'd never met who kept it up for 3 years without communication from me or provocation. It was all in their minds once they got focused. The other girl they were stalking, who HAD met at least one of them, did become a genuine friend in person, one of the only ones.
I met one guy online who was charming and funny and gay and he lived in England, so I saw him when I went there, and he was so SCARED of meeting me that it was just sad. He later really flaked out, too, and kind of betrayed me and that girl I mentioned with the stalker idiots. He was fanning the flame, against our wishes, so he went from friend to persona non grata in a hurry. We were sad about it, but felt for our own protection, it had to be.
Then there was one girl who I used to chat with at night. She invited me to a concert in her part of the country, but when I accpeted, she freaked out and distanced herself!! What was SHE hiding, I've always wondered.
