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Post by cnu5000 on May 10, 2012 7:00:10 GMT -5
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Post by cnu5000 on May 10, 2012 7:14:20 GMT -5
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Post by mar on May 10, 2012 9:56:52 GMT -5
*********** Very good. Thanks for posting. |
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Post by preraph on May 12, 2012 16:54:02 GMT -5
Thanks Mar and CNU for both articles. I really do think we are already seeing the consequences of the Child is King phenomenon. One of my good friends is guilty of it. Her mother only had one child (like CNU) and is a free spirit who had many other interests to pursue and though a very nice women, not a traditional mother and she did drop the ball a little when my friend was a young teen and wasn't vigilant enough. Her father bailed completely.
Now my friend, especially on her first, the boy, never said no and overindulged him with whatever he wanted for most of his young life. She's actually afraid to contradict him or say anything he wouldn't like. Once we were at dinner out and I asked about how he liked school, and it came out he was in trouble at school for not turning in homework. The load of crap he gave his mother (and she believed) is that he DID his homework, he just couldn't remember to take it with him to school. I suggested he email it to his teacher, and his mom thought that was an excellent idea, and he gave me the dirtiest look and said he didn't want to talk about it anymore, in a tone that suggested what he says goes, and I popped back, "Well, I do" at which he mother looked incredulous and then immediately at him to see if I was going to "get away with it" or what he'd do. It just amazed me that she thinks she can't do anything except praise him, no matter what the circumstance.
The first time her son gets a job and someone tells him to do something he doesn't want to do or doesn't praise him for doing his job or doesn't believe his load of crap excuse, he's going to stomp home crying about how unfair it is that he can't get a job he deserves. I only hope he learns something from his peers and teachers at school to counter that. He does seem a little less empirical than he did before, so there is hope.
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Post by mar on May 13, 2012 4:54:49 GMT -5
Just to clarify ~ cnu posted both articles.....I'm giving credit where credit is due.  Many of the younger generation feel that the world owes them a living, and they expect to get things without working for it. Well, they haven't had to take any resposibilities so far in life, so why should they ever have to ?  One word comes to mind ~ entitlement. Of course, so many adults think this way, also. Their mindset is that the rich (who have worked hard and long for everything they've got,) should share their wealth with those who have done nothing to earn their way in life. I just don't understand that way of thinking. I feel that if you earn it you deserve it. If you haven't worked, don't expect someone else to pay your way. PERIOD. Just sayin'. |
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Post by preraph on May 13, 2012 10:53:06 GMT -5
And what they don't realized and something I tell parents I see making this mistake, gently, is that a child who never has to earn anything and receives praise for doing nothing reaches an age he knows he's done nothing to deserve it and walks away having no self-esteem. That's why you end up with 30-year-old mama's boys still living at home mooching off their struggling single mother and still bossing her around.
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Post by cnu5000 on May 29, 2012 16:03:15 GMT -5
It is good for us 50+ workers. They like us more now. They can't deal with these younger workers.
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