Repulsively "doting" mothers

[ras1980]

Hello, everyone. . .I am new here and cannot wait to start posting more often!

So on to my little story Don't you just love mothers who relentlessly dote on their Botticelli-esque children? You see, I work at a optometrists office as a dispensing optician. Long story short, Today, I was helping a nine year old young boy pick out a pair of frames. The child had a broad face, with wide-set blue eyes and platinum blond hair; very [forgive me for my bias] stereotypically "Aryan" looking in that "Village of the Damned" fashion. In addition, the child was currently wearing diamond-shaped frames that were a very deep purple color, more suited for a young girl then for a little boy. The boy, who is nine years old, apparently has an affection for violet, blue and lilac colored eyeglass frames. I had the child try on a small half-rimless London Fog frame that was violet on top and rimless on the bottom, and the mother spat out the most nauseatingly saccharine compliment she could possibly muster {to paraphrase}: "Oh honey. . .those lilac-colored, half-rim frames really bring out the beauty of your blue eyes!" Oh, gag me. Call me cynical, but the child is a boy, and the mother shouldn't treat the young lad like he is a burgeoning princess.

P.S. Both the mother and the child left without purchasing anything lol.

[jessica]

Princesses grow up to be queens. Nothing wrong with that in my book. *head bob & snap* OKAAAAY?

[ras1980]

LOLOL. . . but what if the burgeoning princess who will someday transform into a Queen is a nine year old boy with a neurotic mother who dotes over him obsessively? lol

[jessica]

OHNOES What if he starts killing size 14 women and wearing their skins?!?!?!?

[ras1980]

OMIGOD end of the WORLD as we know it :-O

[jessica]

It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.

[limeygirl]

I'm sure all this adoration and fawning over the children must unbalance the kids themselves. I knew where I stood when I was a kid, where the boundaries were, praise only when I did something exceptionally good. I knew I was just another member of the family, a team member where everyone had to do their bit. Which stood me in good stead for adult life. I know a teenager who went on work experience (working in a sportswear shop). It was her first taste of the "grown up" world. She lasted four hours. She went home at lunch time and told her mother she didn't like the way they spoke to her. Her mother phoned the shop to say she wouldn't be coming back. My mother would have dragged me by the hand and thrown me back in the shop, and rightly so. I dread to think what society is going to become when all these little emporers come of age.

[preraph]

Oh, I've already worked with some of them. I inherited this small office from a guy I knew, a friend of mine. When I got there, he had one girl as his assistant. It was her first job. It was a dream job, and she lucked into it and had no idea how lucky she'd been. It took me years to get in a similar position in that field. Her boss, my friend, had a crush on her, but he had his own problems, so he was the kind of guy who would obsess for years over someone without ever actually dating her. He'd been telling me he really liked her for some time. So he got promoted and I took his job, and this girl who'd never had a job before and now had a fantasy job was doing very little besides sitting on the floor dallying with some mailouts and talking sports to whoever would listen. She was lackadasical, to say the least. And she thought I was very cruel indeed when I shifted the office into gear and actually wanted her to WORK. She actually would start crying because she missed the guy who left. So distraught was she that she, in fact, she went straightaway and found another guy who'd coddle her, a client, and quit, which was a relief as far as I was concerned -- but she somehow got permission to remain in my office, where I still had to put up with her. And then she polluted the minds of the next two people I hired so that they had an attitude from the start. It was a nightmare. Over time, and after her new boss actually did require some work out of her, I think she became a little more realistic, but it was too little too late. Despite all the problems with personnel there, I managed to bring my branch to number one nationwide and sustain it for some months -- before I got sick of doing all the work and quit.

[ana]

These "princesses" will always find a guy just like Dad to dote on them because it's something they think they deserve. Boys/Men their own age won't put up with that sh*t. And the dirty old men will be happy to have a young thing willing to go to bed with their wrinkled ass.

But as a wise women once said, when you marry for money you earn every penny!

[preraph]

Well, sometimes they think they deserve it, but sadly, many times they simply know no other way because their idiot parents didn't teach them anything.

Yep, marrying for money is the oldest profession in the world.

[flamepointsiamese]

I see that a lot too. There seems to be some trend: no matter how freakish or unattractive the child, all moms think their child can win the mr. or ms. universe pageant.

[preraph]

flamepointsiamese said:

I see that a lot too. There seems to be some trend: no matter how freakish or unattractive the child, all moms think their child can win the mr. or ms. universe pageant.

Yeah, I think that's a good thing though. The kid looks like the most beautiful thing in the world to you because you love them so much and of course they share your features! But that's good because at least if the kid is butt ugly to everyone else, the parents tell them how great they are, which is good for their development and confidence and will actually MAKE them more attractive because they gain confidence. It's a survival tool.

But annoying at times? Yes. I have a friend whose kid looked like the dad and really wasn't at all attractive, big flappy lips, undersized teeth, I mean just really not attractive, and she entered him in a baby contest for one of the babyfood manufacturers and was TRULY MYSTIFIED when he didn't win. She said "I don't know why he didn't win." Fortunately, he's starting to look more normal in his grade-school years, but I know he'll end up looking like his dad, who to me is totally repugnant looking, though part of that is his attitude shining through.

[happy2bchildfree]

preraph said:

flamepointsiamese said:

Yeah, I think that's a good thing though. The kid looks like the most beautiful thing in the world to you because you love them so much and of course they share your features! But that's good because at least if the kid is butt ugly to everyone else, the parents tell them how great they are, which is good for their development and confidence and will actually MAKE them more attractive because they gain confidence. It's a survival tool.

But what happens once the kid gets older and his peers are more than willing to point out his unattractive features? Or he gets old enough to look in the mirror and realizes that he doesn't like what he sees? It doesn't take much to trash a kid's confidence and self-esteem.

[preraph]

I agree, but it's still better than never having anyone think they're the greatest, you know. It gives them a foundation of self-worth and doesn't bring them down quite as far.

[eoraptor]

And loads better than a parent who tells her skinny, pretty daughter that she's fat, ugly, and unpleasant-looking. Not that I'd know anything about that...

[happy2bchildfree]

My mother never made any negative comments about my appearance but she never missed an opportunity to tell me what a terrible personality I had.

[preraph]

happy2bchildfree said:

My mother never made any negative comments about my appearance but she never missed an opportunity to tell me what a terrible personality I had.

Well, I think we have to consider the source! Not exactly a charmer herself. I think you have a delightful personality, so there.

[happy2bchildfree]

preraph said:

happy2bchildfree said:

My mother never made any negative comments about my appearance but she never missed an opportunity to tell me what a terrible personality I had.

Well, I think we have to consider the source! Not exactly a charmer herself. I think you have a delightful personality, so there.

LOL! My mother actually did have a very nice personality, but about a 180 from mine. I think she had it in her mind that I was going to be a very social, extroverted, "people person" like her, who made friends very easily. That wasn't me at all and she just couldn't accept that.

In spite of her criticism, I never thought there was anything wrong with being introverted, serious and quiet. I've never liked socializing much and still don't, but I don't see that as a fault, just a personal difference.

[preraph]

I'm kind of like you on that front, and yes, maybe in business it held me back some. I'm seriously not interested in most types of people, not a people person. But I had a great specialized circle of friends whose interests meshed with mine, and that's all I wanted. And, of course, those of us who don't always have to be the social butterflies sometimes attract the more gregarious. I know I do. My best friend for many years was the biggest people person I ever knew, a person with thousands of friendly acquaintances -- but I was special to her.

[truckerswife]

eoraptor said:

And loads better than a parent who tells her skinny, pretty daughter that she's fat, ugly, and unpleasant-looking. Not that I'd know anything about that...

Yea well unfortunately I DO eoraptor!!!!!! Better to be fawned over in public then humiliated in public by a mother who says "your too fat to wear that!"
I will take the fawning any day in the week.