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Post by eoraptor on Sept 24, 2007 18:53:27 GMT -5
LOL! My mother actually did have a very nice personality, but about a 180 from mine. I think she had it in her mind that I was going to be a very social, extroverted, "people person" like her, who made friends very easily. That wasn't me at all and she just couldn't accept that. In spite of her criticism, I never thought there was anything wrong with being introverted, serious and quiet. I've never liked socializing much and still don't, but I don't see that as a fault, just a personal difference. My mother was the same way. She didn't understand why I wasn't more social. It probably didn't help that she raised me in a town of 1,000 in the middle of nowhere. What could I do but read and hike? She kept saying I should be more like her. Funny thing is, she was a bookworm too. And her mother gave her the same crap. So rather than repeating the cycle and doing that to my daughter, I decided I'd skip the whole thing altogether. |
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Post by truckerswife on Sept 24, 2007 20:31:20 GMT -5
LOL! My mother actually did have a very nice personality, but about a 180 from mine. I think she had it in her mind that I was going to be a very social, extroverted, "people person" like her, who made friends very easily. That wasn't me at all and she just couldn't accept that. In spite of her criticism, I never thought there was anything wrong with being introverted, serious and quiet. I've never liked socializing much and still don't, but I don't see that as a fault, just a personal difference. My mother was the same way. She didn't understand why I wasn't more social. It probably didn't help that she raised me in a town of 1,000 in the middle of nowhere. What could I do but read and hike? She kept saying I should be more like her. Funny thing is, she was a bookworm too. And her mother gave her the same crap. So rather than repeating the cycle and doing that to my daughter, I decided I'd skip the whole thing altogether. Well said eoraptor, skip the cycle and let it end with you.. That is my take on it too. That is just number 9 out of 1000 reasons why I chose not not have a kid.. Stop the cycle of abuse & intolerance in me. I would hate to pass my genes down to any child. |
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Post by ras1980 on Sept 24, 2007 21:22:56 GMT -5
You have all made good points. However, fawning should be done in moderation. In some cases excessive fawning can lead to the child being in possession of a sense of entitlement & ends up feeling as if they are superior. Of course, if a mother pays absolutely no attention to their child, then the kid ends up feeling alienated & lonely and develops an inferiority complex -- again, in some cases, not all. Anyhow, that day, I was feeling rather irritated by that woman, so I decided I would rant about it on this board!  LOL |
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Post by truckerswife on Sept 25, 2007 15:40:34 GMT -5
You have all made good points. However, fawning should be done in moderation. In some cases excessive fawning can lead to the child being in possession of a sense of entitlement & ends up feeling as if they are superior. Of course, if a mother pays absolutely no attention to their child, then the kid ends up feeling alienated & lonely and develops an inferiority complex -- again, in some cases, not all. Anyhow, that day, I was feeling rather irritated by that woman, so I decided I would rant about it on this board! LOL RANT away ras1980 That is what we are here for. Its funny but the subject of fawning is the other side of the coin of neglect and abuse. My DH and I often discuss this with each other because of our nieces and nephews. Where does a person draw the line? Does anyone know where the middle of the road is on this subject. Like Ras1980 said if you fawn too much over a child they think they are god and own the world. But if you neglect a child they wind up bitter and resentful of the world. So where is the middle of the road?  ?? Who knows? I know I don't know. I guess maybe we all do not know otherwise we would not be here ranting about it all,lol See Ras1980 I love to rant too. It gets a lot off my chest about the evils of parenting and when does a parent know when to discipline a child and when does the discipline become abuse? Its all a Big "Catch 22" nightmare for me thats for sure. |
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Post by fallansparrow on Sept 25, 2007 17:20:56 GMT -5
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 'Nuff said.
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Post by ras1980 on Sept 25, 2007 19:39:57 GMT -5
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 'Nuff said. [glow=red,2,300]/end of thread[/glow] |
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