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Post by minerva on Jul 12, 2007 11:31:07 GMT -5
Similar to my idea of my "Poison Pen Thread" in Misc., I thought I’d start a thread of Breeder/Baby daily annoyances. The idea is when something breeder/sprog occurs that bothers you, whether it’s a conversation or an event, or something you see on the news, but it doesn’t really merit its own thread for discussion, you can post it here. It’s just a way for you to vent and for the rest of us to shake our heads in disgust. I’ll start: I work in a cube-farm. Just heard over the cube wall, Michael: “Hey, you look tired! Everything all right?” Heather: “Yeah it’s OK, I guess.” Michael: “What’s up?” Heather: “I was up rocking my child from 2:00-3:30AM. He just wouldn’t go back to sleep! I knew I was going to end up being late for work…” Michael: “Oh, I didn’t notice that, but why don’t you go work from home the rest of the day or just take a long lunch to relax?” Heather: “Good idea, I think I will.” <pulls out hair> Choices, people!! CHOICES!! |
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Post by josie on Jul 12, 2007 12:21:14 GMT -5
I have a co worker who thinks he should be exempt from any and all overtime, and certain duties because he has children.
Thankfully, my boss doesn't give in to that. I'm lucky I work in a place where the breeder is outnumbered 2 to 1. (There's only 3 of us).
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Post by preraph on Jul 12, 2007 14:05:41 GMT -5
Sure, go work from home so you won't get ANY work done because of the kid.
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Post by SLP on Jul 12, 2007 14:45:56 GMT -5
Ah yes! The old "working from home" ploy! That's just breederspeak for I don't have childcare today, or snotley has a soccer game. Don't tell me you're working from home when I can tell that you're in the car and I can hear bratleigh screaming in the backseat.  I work in breederville and I CANNOT stand when they try to use this bullsh!t excuse. |
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Post by brunella on Jul 12, 2007 19:04:57 GMT -5
I just got an e-mail at work today that clearly went out to all the female employees inviting me to some "Working Mom's" luncheon to go celebrate themselves. I'm wondering when I'll get invited to the "Hard Working Professional who is always COVERING for Working Mom's" luncheon. I work at a really nice place with great benefits but the breeder benefits still outweigh the non-breeder benefits. Not to mention the un-official ones like "oh poor you up all night with Bratleigh, go ahead home for the day". Sure I can ALWAYS stay late because I have no children (I DO have dogs which CAN'T cook for themselves or let themselves out but, they aren't HUMAN children). The workplace stuff just kills me.
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Post by preraph on Jul 12, 2007 19:34:39 GMT -5
You should just skip that luncheon. Tell your boss you'll stay there at the office and cover for them as usual.
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Post by brunella on Jul 16, 2007 19:51:00 GMT -5
I'm thinking of going (I keep getting e-mails about it) and then ask them why they think they're special. Probably would be frowned on though. Guess I'll stay at the office and cover for them...AGAIN.
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Post by preraph on Jul 16, 2007 21:10:42 GMT -5
Better yet, go apply for a new job.
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Post by kiddinla on Jul 17, 2007 6:43:27 GMT -5
This is nothing much, but here it is. I have a yard service. Towards the last job of the day, all i'm thinking about is food, shower, air conditioning, and a netflix dvd. One of my customers has a son (2 or 3?), and they seem to wait all day for me to get there, and then they come out and pounce on me: "charlie wants to ride on your mower" or the kid will stand behind me when i'm running the weedeater. I have to stop, knock on the door, and say "your son could lose an eye if he stands around my weedeater". It doesn't matter how many times you tell them to not walk up on me while i'm running machinery; it's in one ear, and out the other. I'm thinking about finishing quickly, and they're thinking "oh good, the yardman is here, playtime!"
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Post by truckerswife on Jul 17, 2007 11:02:21 GMT -5
I got a better story...
Last week I was having dinner and I went to use the ladies room.
I overheard a mother speaking to her little girl
saying to her
" look if your going to get sick get sick now, I want to go eat dinner. I am not going to stand her all day waiting for you. Are you sick?"
ITMT I hear a little voice whine "I don't feel good"
And still this rotten mother is yelling at her kid. Saying "I am not spending my night in the toilet. You either get sick now or else
And if you get sick at the dinner table, then your in for it for sure"
I swear to God this is the converation I heard!
What NERVE!!! I am seething!!!!!!!
I am not a breeder But I have 10 nieces and nephews and 4 GRAND Nieces and nephews
and as a loving aunt I would never order any of my kids to be sick.
You can't tell someone when they are going to barf!!! How dare she say that to her own child!!!
MY God if she did not want this kid she should have given it up for adoption or better still never had it to begin with.
These are the types of people that make me want to pull my hair out.
I never did get to see who it was cause I was a bit sick myself only coming out the other end, lol.
But I never heard the kid get sick and I guess they left.
But that was the worst thing I ever heard a stranger yell at her own daughter demanding her to get sick now or else.
GRRRRRRRRR
That is my Rant for the day.
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Post by preraph on Jul 17, 2007 11:58:00 GMT -5
That IS bad. The poor kid. I had something similar with a friend of mine. We went on a short road trip with her little boy, who is very well behaved. On the way back, he became car sick, and she got MAD at him for it! She acted like he did it just to irritate her. I was just appalled. I always got carsick, so I felt horrible for the kid. I know she drug him around all over town where they live because she never stops running, and I guess she'd come to think of it as his way to slow her down or something. I talked to her about it and insisted on stopping and letting him get out of the car and tried to find something for his stomach. I was just so disappointed in her about that. And I whispered to him that I knew he was really sick because I got sick too. She is just very narcissistic and thinks everything is about her.
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Post by minerva on Jul 18, 2007 19:08:24 GMT -5
The Heather & Michael saga of breeder entitlement and idiocy continues, this time oh-so much more offensively.
In case you hadn’t figured it out, Heather’s cube is next to mine, and she’s a gold mine for this kind of sh.it. Over the cube wall this morning:
Heather: “You all ready for your trip?”
Michael: “Yeah, but we’re not really looking forward to everything”
Heather (woefully): “Oh, you mean your sister?”
Michael: “You know it. It’s the whole kid thing.”
Heather: “She’s still down on having them, huh?”
Michael: “Yep”
Heather: “You know, people like that just don’t get it. They’re so superficial! They really are. What meaning do their lives really have?”
Michael: “Yeah, at least it’ll give the wife and I [sic] someone to make fun of to entertain ourselves on the plane home.”
Grrrrrrrrrrr... I need to keep my noise canceling headphones on full time.
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Post by jack101 on Jul 18, 2007 19:37:26 GMT -5
What I want to know is why childfree people are even concerned at all about how parents raise their children, who cares. I don’t pay them the slightest bit of attention, them or their kids. Why would I care, I just want them to keep their kids quiet, and out of the road. If they whip the little brats in Wal-Mart with a coat hanger, I wouldn’t even blink, it's not that I dislike children, they are just not at all my concern. The whole reason I’m not having them is so I don’t have to bother with them at all. So why bother with getting all heated about what this parent or that parent did, who cares. If the kid didn’t deserve what they were getting at that very moment, I’m sure the yet undiscovered peanut butter & jelly sandwich jammed in their parents DVD player will more than make up for them getting their head slammed in the middle of a shopping center, for what seems to be no apparent reason. I think being childfree should mean that you not only don’t have kids, but you are free from stressing about them or their god awful parents for that matter. I’m not justifying the parent’s behavior, but you can’t save the world, so why bother. People have been treating their kids like dirt since the dawn of time and will probably continue to do so well long after you’re gone from this world. Since you only have a limited time here on this wonderful planet, why not accentuate the positive and stop giving breeders and their spawn all the attention, isn’t there a sunset happing somewhere or something. ;D
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Post by preraph on Jul 18, 2007 21:38:01 GMT -5
I agree with you in theory, but sadly, I have a special interest in behavior, both human and animal, so I get sucked into childrearing because I see so much that is so wrong. There is really only one rule you have to remember, whether you're training a kid or a lab rat: Reward them when they're doing what you want and withdraw attention/reward when they're not. I just don't understand how so many people can go so far afield. It affects me because I have a friend or two who foist their children upon me -- and because they come put their fingers in my chips at restaurants, carry on while in the air, etc. But God love ya for being able to tune it all out. We bitches just aren't built that way.
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Post by preraph on Jul 18, 2007 21:53:19 GMT -5
Minerva, you are in a particularly obnoxious work predicament. Honestly, that conversation ought to be reported to a supervisor. It is so insensitive and just plain mean. Doesn't your company have a suggestion box? I would certainly suggest they do some sensitivity training about not belittling people for not having children. I hate it happened in the cube next to you. Better if it were someplace where anyone could have heard and you could report it anonymously. Really, does your HR department have an anonymous reporting system? Because many of the companies do that now. You report it, they don't reveal who you are but they write it up and see what they need to do based on the situation. Seriously, no one should have to listen to that. That is worse than any I've heard as far as being just openly hostile and with no regard for you, who is listening. They do know you're childfree, don't they? If so, they're really acting like jerks.
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Post by happy2bchildfree on Jul 18, 2007 21:58:40 GMT -5
What I want to know is why childfree people are even concerned at all about how parents raise their children, who cares. I agree with you in theory but since I have to live in this world with their poorly raised and badly behaved offspring, it does concern me how they are being raised. Also, since I was abused as a child, I can't simply turn the other cheek when I see or know about a child being mistreated and not have an emotional response to it. |
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Post by minerva on Jul 19, 2007 0:29:11 GMT -5
They do know you're childfree, don't they? If so, they're really acting like jerks. Actually, I don't think they know that about me. My company has over 8000 employees at our Arizona facility, and I don't work in her department (sitting next to her is simply a result of space constraints) so it's likely she wouldn't know me from Adam. I, however, know who she is due to her loud, rude conversations. I'm not even 100% sure they know I'm there since I'm pretty quiet most of the time. Even so, they ought to have a conversation like that elsewhere - namely NOT IN THE OFFICE. I don't go around spouting off about my personal (and relatively unpopular) beliefs out of consideration for others, I'd appreciate them doing the same. I'll consider HR, but it's kind of a he said/she said thing unless someone else is around to corroborate it for me. Since the girl who sits on the other side of the wall from me is out on maternity, it's pretty much not worth fighting at this point. I'll have to wait until it happens again. |
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Post by truckerswife on Jul 19, 2007 16:05:04 GMT -5
Jack 101 Its kind of hard to find a sunset when your sitting in a restroom toilet while answering mother natures call.
I had that conversation that I heard THRUST upon me. Doors closed No way out!
So there was little I can say or do.
If I really did care, which I don't!! I could have spoken up. ( Yelled up is more like it)
But like you I do not care So I remained silent.
I do agree with you that I don't care about breeders or their offspring. Its having to listen to them on my time that is upsetting.
But Its not Like I hate all kids.
Its apparent that you never became an uncle yet.
If you have any siblings one day it will happen to you.
And you will show some concern for your little niece or nephew to be.
If your an only child? Then more power to you
And so, You can enjoy all the sunsets to your hearts content.
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Post by minerva on Jul 22, 2007 15:41:42 GMT -5
One the phone in a one-on-one meeting on Friday with a woman at another site whom I've known for years. She's telling me all about her daughter getting ready to leave for college next month and she flips it right around and all whiny/sappy says, "When are you gonna have bayyyyyyybeeeeeeeees?!?!  !!" My response (flatly): "When Hell gets together an Olympic Bobsled Team." Her: "Oh." |
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Post by eoraptor on Jul 22, 2007 22:36:59 GMT -5
I mentioned this in my intro post, but I recently had an ex-friend (Breeder if there ever was one) tell me that I "protest too much" about not wanting kids. I think I made two entries about not wanting kids and being annoyed at people telling me that I really don't want kids. Apparently, by finally getting fed up with constant pressure to do something I don't want to do, I'm really displaying a masked desire to have kids. I want to throttle her. Why does she keep messaging me?
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