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Post by preraph on Oct 20, 2007 15:41:06 GMT -5
How would you handle an unplanned child? Obviously, this question is for the men.
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Post by AaronF on Oct 20, 2007 17:16:56 GMT -5
If we are assuming that abortion/adoption is not an option...
I would be furious.....but what else could I do? I would calm down eventually and I would attempt to stay...because at that point, what's done is done....I've got a kid on the way whether I like it or not. At that point, my job is to do everything in my power to see that the kid has a chance at a decent life (the child shouldn't pay the price for my screw-up)......I'm afraid that simply cutting a check every month won't do that. There's no way that I'm not having a direct say in the upbringing of my child, or worse yet, or having some other guy eventually raising my kid.
With all that said, who knows how it would affect the marriage/SO relationship? I can't honestly say that I wouldn't harbor some resentment at the situation for a long time, although I hope I wouldn't. Maybe it would end up not working out...but initially, I would try to make it work, because at the risk of sounding like and old-school reactionary, I think that children are generally (but definitely not ALWAYS) better off with both parents in the household.
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Post by sweetnsour on Oct 20, 2007 19:36:29 GMT -5
The poll didn't say if the pregnancy was a result of the ineffectiveness of the birth control or if the female partner intentionally got pregnant, despite knowing how the male felt. Fellows, would this have an impact on your response?
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Post by preraph on Oct 20, 2007 21:07:29 GMT -5
You can never really know, can you? The fact remains that unless one partner or the other is snipped, having sex causes pregnancy, and no other birth control method is 100 percent. So in essence, if you have sex, you need to be prepared for the chance of pregnancy.
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Post by eoraptor on Oct 20, 2007 21:27:32 GMT -5
I asked my husband this question and his response (same as he's told me before when it came up) is that if I accidentally got pregnant, he would fully support me if I wanted to keep it or not. Of course, for me, keeping a child and giving birth aren't options. The damage to my health and our relationship is not worth it. Fingers crossed that someone gets snipped soon. 99% effective is fine, but I'm sick of that 1% weighing on me.
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Post by virus on Oct 26, 2007 17:56:16 GMT -5
I chose this:
"leave and hope no one came looking for you?"
Then if that failed then this:
"leave & provide only $ support required by law?"
I've had a vasectomy so I'll never be in that position to begin with. I can't tell you how liberating that feeling is.
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Post by preraph on Oct 26, 2007 18:06:56 GMT -5
I chose this: "leave and hope no one came looking for you?" Then if that failed then this: "leave & provide only $ support required by law?" I've had a vasectomy so I'll never be in that position to begin with. I can't tell you how liberating that feeling is. I think you did the responsible thing. There's no shame in not wanting one, but since it's rather hard to prevent, I think taking heroic measures to do so and prevent a bad outcome for the child is the right thing to do. |
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Post by virus on Oct 30, 2007 18:00:05 GMT -5
Thanks. Every guy on this board needs a vasectomy. An unwanted pregnancy can ruin your life, and as a man, you have no legal say in whether the baby gets born or not. If the baby is born you will lose half your income to child-support.
If you have trouble getting one in the States because of the Cult of Breeding, come to Australia and get it done here. The Cult is strong here too, (the government once put an ad in the paper telling women to pop one out for the country) but there are dudes here that can hook you up.
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Post by mtcrowe on Jan 27, 2008 18:19:18 GMT -5
Thankfully my wife is on the same wavelength as me as far as children are concerned. We already have the nearest abortion clinic mapped out for that 1% ratio of error.
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Post by chrisc on Feb 21, 2009 0:51:12 GMT -5
I asked my husband this question and his response (same as he's told me before when it came up) is that if I accidentally got pregnant, he would fully support me if I wanted to keep it or not. Of course, for me, keeping a child and giving birth aren't options. The damage to my health and our relationship is not worth it. Fingers crossed that someone gets snipped soon. 99% effective is fine, but I'm sick of that 1% weighing on me. what was he supposed to say? "honey, you'd never see me again" or "i would kick you in the stomach really hard while you slept" or "i would slip RU486 in your morning coffee" lol |
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