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Post by preraph on May 15, 2008 10:45:46 GMT -5
I once had a male doctor tell me I had the lumpiest most cauliflower like breasts he had ever seen...I went to him scared out of my mind that I had breast cancer because I found a lump and this is what he tells me! So caring. I mean...what woman wants to hear that? No no you are fine, your just a freak of nature... NICE! When my female doctor died (I guess my weird body pushed her over the edge), I started going to her male partner. After exam, I was in his office while he made notes. I noticed the drawing of my breasts, they were totally cross-eyed, like they were eyes looking at one another. I pointed to it and said, "Is that supposed to be ME?" He said yes. I said, "Are you saying my boobs are CROSS-EYED??" I totally called him on it. I made him laugh nervously.
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Post by runnerchick on May 17, 2008 20:36:59 GMT -5
My Ob/gyn is a male with 9 kids but he could care less that I don't want kids. When I got my tubes tied, all he did was make sure I understood the implications of what I was going to do. Other then that, he was ok lets get you scheduled. I work for the Planned Parenthood here in town and I thought about getting my annual there but I thought I might feel a little funny about working with the same person that has seen my female parts up close and personal
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Post by Nephthys on May 17, 2008 21:26:15 GMT -5
W-O-W. Once again, the quality of the responses I have gotten here has really blown me away. I apologize for not being a more active part of the conversation, but I just got done with my college midterms and I am still recuperating from those, LOL.
I will read everything more thoroughly at a later date, but I just wanted everyone to know how much I appreciate the sharing of stories. You folks are great!
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Post by pyrosgal on May 19, 2008 17:06:35 GMT -5
Sorry you're having trouble. Can you come down here to Vancouver to Planned Parenthood?
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Post by ana on May 28, 2008 10:35:32 GMT -5
I've been going to my female dr since I was 21. Since then, she's had 2 kids herself and still never ever asked why I wanted bc. When I told her I didn't want kids, she gave me all sorts of options for permanent bc. I've always liked her.
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Post by ivycreeping on Jun 27, 2008 1:53:34 GMT -5
I once had a P.A. at the OB/GYN tell me that I might find the right man and change my mind about not wanting to get pregnant. ...Bitch.
Enough said, huh?
They really need to make laws against this stuff.
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Post by writerchk on Jun 27, 2008 9:25:36 GMT -5
I have a great new doctor who never gives me any flack about it. I told her I don't know if I will or won't have kids. I may not even be able to. She's more concerned with my health than something that doesn't even exist.
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Post by sage on Jun 28, 2008 20:52:38 GMT -5
My gyn herself seems alright, although she doesn't listen to me about the fact that I can't have sex because it's too freaking painful.....getting the pap makes me cringe with pain, doesn't she notice that?
But she doesn't pester me about babies. Yes, her office has those little drawing of cuddling babies hung around the waiting room, but for me the biggest concern is having someone walk through the door and think I'm pregnant, or trying to be. (I'm in my twenties but am told I still look like a teenager; the last thing I want to be thought of is as a stupid desperate idiot kid who either got pregnant or idiotically wants to be.)
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Post by evilmonkee on Jul 23, 2008 16:35:30 GMT -5
It's still better than the OB-GYN who refused to renew my prescription for birth control because now that I'm married I need to be "open to life". Yeah, I'll be "open to life" if you are open to doing my research, sitting in the computer lab until 3 am finishing my thesis, and waking up to feed a screaming baby. Now I have a new doctor who is great and who is actually a professor who does research on birth control methods. Oddly enough, I've had much more luck with male doctors than with female docs.
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Post by nokidsplease87 on Jul 23, 2008 18:57:49 GMT -5
It's still better than the OB-GYN who refused to renew my prescription for birth control because now that I'm married I need to be "open to life". Yeah, I'll be "open to life" if you are open to doing my research, sitting in the computer lab until 3 am finishing my thesis, and waking up to feed a screaming baby. Now I have a new doctor who is great and who is actually a professor who does research on birth control methods. Oddly enough, I've had much more luck with male doctors than with female docs. "Open to life" ?? I would have been like "Yeah, that's the point; I'm open to ME having my own life!" UGH, that is awful... Can't we start suing doctors like that?
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Post by happy2bchildfree on Jul 23, 2008 20:11:53 GMT -5
It's still better than the OB-GYN who refused to renew my prescription for birth control because now that I'm married I need to be "open to life". That is so very wrong. It should be illegal for doctors to do that. I think I would have lodged a complaint about him/her with the state medical board.
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Post by tinroofer on Sept 14, 2008 21:37:05 GMT -5
I just had to resurect this one to tell you about my latest experience.
So, my hematologist tells me that I have to get off oral bc because I have the high risk of blood clots that they warn you about in all the bc commercials. (I'm 31 and don't smoke so they put me on low-dose asprin to try and avoid clots)
I call the gyn office and set up an appointment. It's August and they can't freakin see me until the end of October. Ok, whatever. So I go off the pill and tell the hubs to get familiar with condoms again.
Now, I'm bleedin when I'm not supposed to be. I call and they say it's from going off the bc. Ok, whatever.
Last week they call and say they have to reschedule me because the doc 'won't be available' and they move my appointment to the end of November. WTF???
I have to go off the pill, I tell them I need my annual exam plus some bc options and this is what I get??
When they called to reschedule, the annoying appointment chick asked me if it would be a problem. I said 'hell yes' and told her the deal. I was off the pill and freakin bleedin. Still. She said 'well stay off the pill and HEY if you get pg we can fit you in much sooner since we always leave space for pg women who need immediate care.' Double WTF???
I called Planned Parenthood and they will see me this week, get the annual, give me some bc options and refer me to a better doc. Screw that gyno. She can bite it sideways.
On a side note, all the other bc options scare the crap outta me for some reason. A pill was a concept I could live with. Anything that needs professional installation (IUC/Essure) is just creepy and the hubs, who is still secretly hoping I will change my mind, will probably freak if I go for the tubal. Not that I need his permission, just not wanting to deal with his crap right now. *sigh*
Maybe I'll feel better once I get a good once-over at PP and get some information I can actually use.
~TR
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Post by malagata on Sept 14, 2008 23:21:39 GMT -5
You did the right thing. Planned Parenthood is better anyway. I also know what you mean about being creeped out by the other methods, although my cousin has had the IUD in for years with no problems. Your husband secretly wants kids and you don't? How is it that you two got married without thoroughly discussing the matter? (I don't mean to come across as judgmental I am genuinely curious) Anyway, welcome to the PP crowd! (urm..that doesn't sound right...does it?)
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Post by tinroofer on Sept 15, 2008 13:04:01 GMT -5
I was in denial. Thought I would do the mommy thing because it was expected of me. The more he wanted them the less I did and finally realized I had a choice in the matter. I've made it clear that he is the one with the decision to make - to stay or go - because I've made the choice to be CF. So far, he is staying. I think he actually doesn't like change very much and is ok with keeping his life the way it is but he won't say it. He was very very indoctrinated in the standard life script and doesn't want to go off-course. But if *I* take him off course, he can handle it better than deciding for himself. Sheesh.
Just found out my insurance pays 100% for a tubal. It sounds better and better. The other options make me feel like I'd be carrying a freaking toolbox in my uterus.
Anywhoo...yes, PP is the way to go if you want to be seen quickly and not get blown off in favor of the pg 'preferred patient'.
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Post by juliepoo15 on Sept 15, 2008 14:17:22 GMT -5
This is what I'm going through, but it's only the beginning for me. I know he still thinks I'll change my mind. When I don't he can stay or go. No matter how much he says he'll make a good father, I know the truth...as painful as it is. He will NOT make a good father, just based on the personality I've seen in the past four years of our relationship. Not to mention his alcoholism... He even despises annoying children. Ahhh...but if it comes from our union it'll be different. It'll be weird and querky and beautiful, just like all the things he loves about me. *sigh* Not how life works. The thrill fades and life goes on, whether you like it or not.
I'm sorry you were treated so rudely by your obgyn, tinroofer. I think you did the right thing, too. How disgusting of them to do that preferred patient thing. Stupid breeders... I hope you get the bc squared away soon. Good luck with hubby, too.
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Post by lys on Sept 16, 2008 17:28:14 GMT -5
When they called to reschedule, the annoying appointment chick asked me if it would be a problem. I said 'hell yes' and told her the deal. I was off the pill and freakin bleedin. Still. She said 'well stay off the pill and HEY if you get pg we can fit you in much sooner since we always leave space for pg women who need immediate care.' Double WTF??? I would have called back a few days later and said I think Im pregnant and Im bleeding can I be seen? THEN switch to a new Dr. She can bite it sideways. HAHA, I'm going to start saying that!!! Anything that needs professional installation HAHA, you're so funny!!! Seriously though, I hope you get it all straightened out, with the appointment and with the hubs!!
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Post by tinroofer on Sept 16, 2008 21:06:25 GMT -5
Thanks y'all. What comes around goes around. This PP office says they are going to make sure they don't refer CF or CL patients to her, just those who already happen to be pg I guess. I'm sure THEY will get excellent care, until after they have the kid anyway.
Yeah, I'm glad I can get seen this week. I'm nervous as usual when an inspection of the girly bits is being done. Can't help it.
I'm debating on going to the old gyno's office and just getting my records now to take with me to the new doc. I already know I'm never going back into the stirrups for this doc ever again. If they happen to ask why, I'll tell em exactly how I see it - A non-pg, non-TTC patient is a 2nd class patient and it boils down to gynecological snobbery.
And just when it couldn't get any better, I had a 'friend' who was going on and on today about why I shouldn't have to worry about BC and why wouldn't I just trust my hubs with condoms and the reliability and blah blah blah. After she finally shut her pie-hole, I had to remind her (a) I *don't* trust him since he is not a member of Team CF (b) that her own nephew was a 'oops the condom broke and we were too dumb to go get PlanB' baby. End. Of. Discussion.
LOL!
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Post by tinroofer on Oct 2, 2008 11:24:29 GMT -5
Oh my gosh. I just randomly called a new gyn office (from my insurance website) to schedule a consultation and the appointment lady told me they don't do ANY ob/baby related things at this office. None. I was speechless. I'm just so darn happy. I went ahead and made the appointment, hoping the jury duty I'm also scheduled for that week gets cancelled or finishes before then. And here I thought I was going to have to call around to try and find a non-ob office and it was my first call. Woot! I did go to PP a few weeks ago and while they had no problem working with me due to MS, they did seem uncomfortable about the blood clotting abnormality that I have. It's not something they are familiar with and thought I might be best served with a regular gyn. Right after that, I called my hematologist to find out what it is that I'm supposed to stay away from in regards to hormonal bc methods. (Because if she ok'd a method, PP said they might do it anyway after researching it for themselves) She has not called me back and I don't think she will. Her pro-baby stance is showing. That first freak out started like this: She had been going over all the medical things I'd have to do to carry a pg to term and I told her it didn't apply to me and to move on to the part about keeping me alive. She snapped and went left. When she came up for air after a rant, I informed her that her opinion on the matter was moot since it had been decided and to move on. I must have had that 'b*tch I will get up off this table and leave' look. She never mentioned it again in later visits and she seemed to have accepted it, as we got along much better. Now I wonder.
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Post by preraph on Oct 2, 2008 19:56:37 GMT -5
If that gyn happens to be in the DFW metroplex, let me know who it is if you like them. I might go sometime.
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Post by tinroofer on Oct 2, 2008 20:07:01 GMT -5
She's just north of Austin. I'll let y'all know how it goes and if anyone in this area is interested, I'll share the details.
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