Harrassed at the OBGYN?

[preraph]

DARN IT! Wish there was one around here. See, I can drive to Oklahoma and do it free at the indian hospital there, but there's times I want someone local.

[Nyx]

Ouch what twits some of those GYNs can be .. shakes head ... I guess I got off lucky, my first gyn took my comment of being ChildFree and never made it an issue, when she moved to another provance she made sure the one she handed me off to was alright treating someone who was CF, and I ended up with a keeper (she was a mother herself, but had no issues with treating someone who chose not to have children) till she discharged me back to my GP since under her I no longer needer her type of care since I didn't have woman issues to deal with anymore and that my GP was more then able to care for what woman issues I might have (as in the annual pap, etc).

[lulu]

Thankfully I haven't had any problems. The last few years since I just need a PAP, I've been seeing the nurse practicioners at the OBGYN office and have had a good experience with both of them. No question about babies, no questions about BC. The worst part is waiting for the nurse, sitting there with the little gown on, and looking at the diagrams and charts on the wall of baby development inside the womb and delivery. Things like that gross me out anyway (the idea of pulling teeth or laser eye surgery make me squirm too).

[leenahyena05]

I've had some problems, indeed!

The first time I tried to get birth control:
I went into my primary care physician's office. My periods had been too erratic and heavy and for one week every month, I could not leave the house. I could barely leave the bathroom. If I was out for more than an hour my clothes would be badly stained, no matter what (or how much) protective feminine products I was employing. This was simply not conducive to being in college, no less being out of the country for a month the following summer excavating with one of my professors.
I asked her about birth control to help lighten my periods and make them more predictable. She told me no, and that I had to just deal with it. She told me it might be best if I didn't leave the country at all if I was having these problems. Why not just prescribe BC? Because, she said, if she were to give me birth control I would stop using condoms.
She accepted no arguments against that. I have stopped seeing her.
I went to to Planned Parenthood Clinic to get the script, and was put on the 3-month pills. Periods have not gotten any lighter, they have gotten more painful, but at least they're less frequent.

Planned Parenthood:
After a while, I decided I trusted the ladies at Planned Parenthood enough to ask them about sterilization. It is a decision I made in middle school, I have been saving my money for it since I was 14. I made an appointment and went in to talk to the nurse. I told her I didn't want to be on hormones anymore and I didn't want to have children in the future.
She immediately brought out an IUD display and showed it to me. She told me "When you decide to have kids, you can just get it removed easily." What?
I will NOT decide to have kids. Move on please.
"Oh, yes you will. Everyone does."
WHAT?
I guess I started getting an attitude, because I had expected Planned Parenthood to be a little more sympathetic. I then told her, straight out, "I am asking you about sterilization, that's all I want."
She told me that her office wouldn't help me with that.
I left without even a recommendation for an OB/GYN.

So much for Planned Parenthood. Similar situations have occurred with about a half-dozen other doctors, but I had expected much better from Planned Parenthood. I don't know if I will go back to that office anymore.

A gal I know:
Got a tubal relatively young. Age of 19 or so. She had put the idea in her doctor's head years before, so the actual medical consent was easy (She was also in a different state, or else I would be seeing this doc, too). When they were anesthetizing her, one of the nurses tried to get her to admit that she didn't want the procedure. She was in the process of being drugged and this nurse tried to take advantage of that to cancel the operation. So as she is going under, the nurse is literally trying to trick her into saying she didn't want the operation, begging her to just tell them to stop. Because, of course, this nurse who she's never met has a better idea of what she wanted than she did, and just had to get her drugged to admit it. Right?
She tried to file a lawsuit, but there was insufficient evidence to prove it.

I think the court was just biased.

I could go on with these stories for days.

[preraph]

You've had some horrible experiences! First of all, that first doctor had no right to refuse you birth control and clearly had some religious belief or something motivating her. Ignorant cow. I'm sorry you had a jerk at Planned Parenthood also. They are normally the best place for things of this nature. You just got ahold of a bad one. I also suspect that they have probably been infiltrated by right-wingers trying to sabotage their operation because they have been the main focus of conservative groups for some years now. They are currently trying to vote out their federal funding. Don't ever give up, though. Try other people. I've been blessed with easy periods and feel so bad for those who have bad ones. I will tell you that different hormone combinations affect the amount and length, so keep trying until you get the best balance for you. You know, if you can afford it (some say it's not that expensive) you ought to go get a workup evaluation for bioidentical hormones. They are said to truly balance you out. I am wanting to do it myself, even though I am super OLD...